Open rebuke is better than secret love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Proverbs 27:5-6
Thank you, YouVersion Bible App, for the daily verses. I just love Proverbs! I love this scripture.
Love is the greatest thing. The Word even says “the greatest of these is love”. So what is love? Does everyone understand what love is? Does the church and the leaders in this world truly understand this? Our politically correct world shows that sugar coated messages on Sunday mornings have only helped enable the politically correct system we live in today.
Love is a word that used in so many different ways in society today. True love though, is wanting the best for someone, wanting their life to be fruitful, and caring for the safety and welfare of their life. Love is putting others before yourself and thinking of what is best for and how your actions and decisions will affect the world and those around you. That is why Jesus stated in Luke 9:48 “For he who is least among you all is the one who is great.”
Have you ever talked to someone and they tell you what you want to hear and you walk away thinking “Man, that’s not what I was looking for!” Or did you ever find yourself in a situation in life that just wasn’t working and you are wondering why and someone tells you that everything is going to be ok but deep down inside you know that something is just not right?
Getting to the root of the problem is difficult. Especially when those that love you don’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you the truth. The devil came to steal, kill, and destroy. He is the great deceiver. Deceit only happens when you don’t walk in Love and the ones that say they love you, sugar coat the truth or lie to you. There are many sayings and scriptures that back all of this. “The truth hurts” and straight from the Lord’s mouth “The Truth will set you free”, and others. Sometimes it is hard to accept the truth, but going back to the initial scripture that “Open rebuke is better than secret love”, you find that it is necessary to grow. Everyone believes they are right until they are proven wrong. Proverbs 12:15 states “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel.” Another verse in Proverbs 19:20 “Listen to counsel and accept discipline, That you may be wise the rest of your days.” And yet another verse, Proverbs 15:31-33 “He whose ear listens to the life-giving reproof Will dwell among the wise. He who neglects discipline despises himself, But he who listens to reproof acquires understanding. The fear of the LORD is the instruction for wisdom, And before honor comes humility.”
To put it simply, if you love someone, tell them the truth. It may not be what they want to hear but it just might be what they need to hear. It may hurt for a while, it may not hurt at all. I promise you from personal experience, thanks mom and dad/Grandma/Pastor Brian Tunstall, it will make you a stronger, wiser, and all around better person. Knowledge is power and Hosea 4:6 says “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”
If you fear hurting someone for telling the truth you are not walking in love but in fear. Fear is not from God, it is an evil spirit. “For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7.